Multi Basket Methodology

Multi Basket Methodology is, in simplified form, basically “keeping your options open”.  The way that this dating methodology works is that you are discouraged from “putting all your eggs in one” basket until there is an ACTUAL reason for you to do this.  Honestly, the putting all your eggs in one basket methodology is a very high schoolish type of mentality.  The whole “OH MY GOD SHE’S/HE’S SOO CUTE I HAVE SUCH A BIG CRUSH ON HER/HIM.”  Basically, when people do this, what they do is they go “all in” on one specific person BEFORE ANY interest is even ESTABLISHED!  That means before the hopeful romantic even TALKS to the person of their affection about whether or not there is a possibility, they start OBSESSING (Yes, stalking, facebook stalking, dreaming, hoping, praying, whatever) about the girl/guy as if they are already dating.

THE PROBLEM with this is that MOST of the times the fact that you are OBSESSING is the VERY principle by which you are probably NEVER going to get the person you set your affections on.  Guys and girls alike can sniff desperation, and usually run away from it quicker than you can say, “BUT, I LOVE YOU!!!!”

There are TWO problems with putting too much money in one stock.  The first problem is that if you even GET the girl/guy that you are hoping for, 9 out of 10 times the relationship will be lopsided.  You will not believe how many people I’ve talked to that say they are only in this relationship because the guy didn’t want to give up.  However, you can CLEARLY tell that they don’t actually LIKE the guy that much.  Honestly, if nothing else, that’s just SAD.  I mean…I realize that in most relationship, one person is going to like the other more…but when it’s THIS LOPSIDED, it’s just SAD for BOTH sides.  “Yea, I’m dating so and so, but she doesn’t actually love me, but WHO CARES CAUSE I GOT HER!”  I bet that’s what some of these guys who used the tree chopping method are thinking.  But wow.  Really?  You’ve also won a possible future affair or divorce.  CONGRATULATIONS.

The second reason why putting all your money in one stock can be a problem is because most of the times, YOU WILL FAIL.  Meaning, you will put all this money in one stock, and then you will quickly learn that the stock has NO ROMANTIC feelings for you whatsoever, and then you’re left with no money.  SUCKS TO BE YOU.

Therefore, the Multi Basket Methodology, to avoid such horrible outcomes, promotes the idea of developing “interest” in people instead of having “crushes” on them.  What is interest?  Interest is simply establishing “dateableness”.  What that means is, you keep your eye open for guys/girls that you believe you could connect with if you actually invested time into each other as people.  You NEVER fully commit to that “guy/girl” during this “interest” phase.  As a matter of fact, you have this same “interest” with a lot of different guys/girls, (however developing too much interest for too many guys/girls probably means you’re HELLA DESPRATE and as such you will probably fail even this methodology) and then from there, you throw out bait and see which fish gets hooked.  The Multi Basket Methodology banks on the principle that there are indeed plenty of fish in the sea, so you can afford to throw out a few lines and see who bites first.

So it would look something like this.  Guy X develops interest (not LIKES but just INTEREST) for Girl Y and Girl Z.  Guy X doesn’t commit himself fully to either, but simply talks to them and gets to know them better (not by much cause then you might start liking them).  Guy X throws out “interest” indicators, such as “hey, do you want to hang out, maybe grab some dinner sometime?”  One of the two girls “bites” the bait.  Girl Y says she would like to have dinner.  Guy X goes to dinner with Girl Y.  At dinner, Guy X expresses his interest for Girl Y.  Girl Y tells Guy X that she, as well, is “interested”.  Then, at this point, and THIS POINT ONLY, you start putting your eggs in this basket.  Not ALL at once, cause ultimately you don’t know if it’ll work yet.  You date each other, and find out if it MAKES SENSE.  You pray, ask God, everything is all good, and then you say “I do” at the alter, and now all your eggs are in one basket.  But it didn’t START that way.  It BECAME that way.

This is an effective strategy cause it protects your heart.  You don’t invest in a person until you know that the stock is ACTUALLY worth investing in.  People who invest too prematurely mostly end up screwed at the end.

However, in another scenario, if both Girl Y and Girl Z express interest, you can do what one of my friend’s did.  Take them on a date together (you stud), and see how they handle the situation.  watch them claw each other’s eyes out.  maybe throw some mud in  pool, bust out one piece swimming suits and let them go at it.  SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST BABY!