How to Get a Guy to Like You

Ever wonder how to get a guy to like you? This is important for a girl to know because recent studies have shown that almost 80% of relationships are in some way/shape/form initiated by the girl and NOT the guy. I know that sounds contradictory to what people are used to thinking. Most of us imagine that the GUY has to be the one to initiate. HOWEVER, this is not really true. Therefore, the first step in getting a guy to like you is to be the one who initiates the relationship.

Most guys don’t have the balls, looks, or skills to really be the “predator” type. You know, the kind of guy that goes into any social setting, sets his eyes on a girl, and then stalks her like a lion stalks a gazelle. Most guys aren’t like that. I mean, there are a lot of guys who TRY to be like that, but they miserably fail because you really need some PAZAZZ to be able to pull that off. Even then, the relationship won’t REALLY go anywhere unless the girl gives some signs that she’s interested. That means she has to SHOW that she is interested in the guy somehow for the guy to feel like it’s worth the risk.

Most guys fear rejection. That is because we’re all prideful, and we’ll go out of our way to protect our pride. So if we feel like the odds of a particular girl liking us back aren’t that great, we’ll probably NEVER act on our feelings. I for one, am sort of gungho (usually). When I like someone, I’m pretty straightforward about it and believe in taking risks. I’ll write a post directed to guys one day to grow some balls. But at the same time, even though I’m “gung-ho”, if there’s a girl that I’m “interested in” and see as potential, I normally use certain methods (the list I’m going to suggest are some) as “feelers” to see if there is interest back. Even though I’m gung-ho, I calculate my risk. I think it’s safe to say that most guys operate on this level.

So with that being said, here are some viable methods that girls can use to try and show “interest” to the guy that they like, and in this way, get the guy to become interested.

• GCHAT/AIM. Looky here. In the 21st century, internet is the primary means of communication for most people. Yes, I realize that this is not true for everyone. Some people are completely out of touch with the times, and prefer to live in caves instead. But for the rest of us (and most of us) one of the sure fire ways to water any relational seeds that you have planted is by using GCHAT to interact with your “interest” on a continual basis. The hope is that if you “gchat” with the person, you find ways to  be “sneaky” and suggest other methods of communication. For instance, one thing you could constantly do is SUGGEST to your “potential other” all the stuff that you’re doing in hopes that he wants to “tag along”. You don’t ever have to really INVITE him, usually if the guy is interested in any shape/form, he’ll suggest somehow to “tag along”. It might be “subtle” hints, but usually they’ll show interest in wanting to go. If the guy continually “offers” to go out to events that you will be at, there is a DAMN good chance that he is interested. Here’s an example.

Girl: Hey Bob, what’s up?
Guy: Hey Mary, not much. What are you up to ^^ (Apparently Bob is a FOB!)
Girl: Well, I think today I have some exciting plans to go to the Getty with some friends, but I don’t really want to go -_-;; (Apparently so is MARY!)
Guy: Oh, why not!?
Girl: Ehhh. The people I’m going with aren’t that exciting.
Guy: I’m exciting :p (Subtle suggestion that he wants to go!!!!!!)
Girl: YOU SHOULD COME!
Guy: Maybe I will… (The guy tries to play it cool! But we all know inside he’s ECSTATIC TO BE INVITED!)

• Sit next to them/across from them if you guys ever go out to eat or the movies with a group of people. This is a REALLY good technique to get some face to face interaction going, and it is a safe way to do this. FIGHT FOR THAT POSITION next to the guy without making it too obvious. Come on, WE ALL DO THIS! For instance, even at movie theatres. ALL OF US TRY TO STRATEGICALLY “sit next to” the guy/girl that we LIKE in the hopes that by sitting next to each other you get to bump each other “on accident” from time to time. If you’re sitting next to or across from the person of your desire, then it becomes straight up like an interview! Now is your chance to shine! Try and connect with the guy on some emotional level (WITHOUT BEING EMOTIONAL!).
• FLIRT A LITTLE. Come on! Use that innate ability to “flirt” a little. Touch his hand/squeeze his hand gingerly, and smile when he tells a joke. Give him your attention, and laugh at his jokes even when they are not funny. LOOK. Let’s BE REAL. FLIRTING IS REQUIRED in almost every instance of relational interest. You have to flirt and get your guy to flirt back! We all like that special romantic attention. Flirting is a way that you can get a guy who is completely UNINTERESTED to be INTERESTED if you do it correctly. I don’t want to get too much into flirting details here, but most people have an innate sense of what flirting is. DO IT. (Don’t overdo it though or else you’ll develop a bad reputation for yourself).
• TALK TO HIM. Don’t be all shy and closed off when you’re around the guy! This is OBVIOUSLY not going to help your cause! If the guy feels like he can’t TALK TO YOU, or CONNECT WITH YOU, then he’s not going to start liking you. No matter HOW amazing you are, or beautiful you are, the guy still wants to be able to converse effectively with a girl that he intends on dating. CONVERSATION AND COMMUNICATION ARE VERY IMPORTANT. No one likes super awkward dinner dates where the guy and girl are just sitting there not saying anything. I’ve SEEN dates like that. THEY LOOK PAINFUL!
• Create “problems” that you need help with and see if the guy helps. This one is KEY. If you need help with homework, “subtly suggest” that you need help with homework! If you need help moving furniture, make a statement like “dang I really need help moving furniture this weekend” (this happens on GCHAT). Find something that you need help with and leave an open invitation to the guy to come help! This will give you time to have some possible 1 on 1 time, but even if you ask some others (to make it less awkward) you can still have some quality time with the guy. IF THE GUY COMES and helps, it doesn’t mean necessarily that he likes you. He could just be a nice guy. But, at the same time, you may catalyze some interest during this time together, or, you can use it as a barometer (with other things you are doing) to see if the guy likes you. Most likely, if the guy goes out of his way to help you, he has SOME interest.
• *Talk to one of his close guy friends about your feelings. Use this method ONLY if you want to just get it over with and out of the way. See how he “reacts” within a week or two of you telling his close guy friend. You can TELL the close guy friend to “NOT TELL HIM ABOUT IT”, but trust me, he’s going to tell him about it. This way, you can see if the guy you like starts giving you more attention, or stops talking to you altogether. This is the expedited method…not recommended for the faint of heart. Basically, what you do is something like this…

Girl: Hey Billy, I want to talk to you about something but you CAN’T TELL BOB.
Guy: Mary, you can trust me with anything. (I AM SO GOING TO TELL BOB LATER TODAY)
Girl: Okay, so I’ve been sort of interested in Bob lately…
Guy: Oh Yea, how long? (I KNEW IT! OMG!)

• *Ask him on a date. You don’t have to make it FORMAL. Just ask him if he wants to go out and grab a bite for lunch or dinner. Do it subtly. Say something more like, “hey we should go out and eat sometime!” And see what the guy says and how he reacts. If he’s interested, he’ll take up the offer. However, if he avoids the dinner/lunch date like a PLAGUE, then he’s just not that into you. This is the reality, sometimes the guy just doesn’t’ like you and visa versa. We all deal with this issue at some point or another, we can’t get so stuck on one person that it becomes an issue. That’s why I suggested the Multi Basket Methodology.

If you’ve tried all that you can and he’s still not making any moves, go watch that movie, He’s Just Not That Into You. Because that’s probably the case here! Good luck!