Comments on: Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? (Pt. 2)

By: Pen Name

Pen Name — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 22:36:05 +0000

Good point! I think my bit on how often it needs to happen was a bit exaggerated. I think ultimately, you do this whenever you feel something in the relationship “changes”. I mean, all of us know that there are just those random awkward “nights” where you feel a close kinship toward a member of the opposite sex that you previously saw as a friend. During those moments, I think Friendship Maintenance needs to happen. It’s just “making sure” you are still on the same page. But the frequency, I definitely agree with you. It shouldn’t happen that often, or else that’s just awkward.

By: Reader

Reader — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 22:32:16 +0000

This doesn’t seem very realistic…those type of conversations are always long and awkward. Who wants to have a conversation like that with the same person every 3-4 months?! If the two people continue to spend a lot of time with each other and both feel that this type of conversation is needed that often, maybe it’s a sign that they should just date. Or if it’s because the same person keeps developing feelings for the other, that person should find a way to get over it (and maybe it’s better to not be friends). DTR exists for a reason…there’s no point in having one if you’re always going to question where you both stand.

By: Brian K. Lee

Brian K. Lee — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 00:10:36 +0000

that is pretty intriguing… we discussed this before in debate before but i never knew yu would write an article about it XD
i still remember that “ladder theory”

By: Determining the Relationship (DTR)

Determining the Relationship (DTR) — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 02:07:03 +0000

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By: Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? (Part 1)

Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? (Part 1) — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 11:30:46 +0000

[...] is a slight possibility that “yes” is an option (which will be discussed in “Part 2“), however, most of the times when you combine two members of the opposite gender that are [...]