The Communication Chasm Theory: Why Guys and Girls Have a Hard Time Communicating in Relationships

by Tobe Hitch on October 22, 2009

One of my friends recently directed me to this VERY fascinating google phenomenon that is absolutely hilarious. As everyone who uses google regularly knows, based on what you start typing in the search bar, google will “anticipate” what the rest of your statement will be in accordance with popular search topics that contain your proposed [...]

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What is An Appropriate Age Spread for Dating?

by Tobe Hitch on October 15, 2009

I believe that the maximum age spread is: guy is 8 years older, or girl is 2 years older.  I know that immediately, especially when it comes to the girl only being 2 years older I’m going to have a lot of raised eyebrows.  Give me an opportunity to explain myself! First and foremost, the [...]

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Case Study: Email DTR

October 13, 2009

Recently, one of my friends had a DTR. She, knowing that I am now officially published (and therefore basically a professional in the field of DTR hahaha), contacted me for help. So it turns out that the guy who tried to get with her is way over twenty years older than her and has a [...]

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What is DTR (Defining The Relationship)?

October 10, 2009

DTR (Defining the relationship), is “talking” to the guy/girl of potential romantic interest and “communicating” with them what your intent in this relationship is. Do you want to date? Do you see him/her as just a friend? DTR is a very, very important communication requirement in any relationship where the possibility of romance exists. Previous [...]

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Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? (Pt. 2)

October 10, 2009

This is a standalone post that covers primarily the concept of Friendship Maintenance.  However, in order to get the full picture, read Part 1 Here.  It’s hard to argue with the Korean Drama argument of why close guy and girl friendship would never work. However, I think that SOMETIMES, with careful “maintenance”, cross gender friendship [...]

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Can Guys and Girls Just Be Friends? (Pt. 1)

October 7, 2009

I’ve heard the stories countless amounts of times, and I’m sure you have, too.  As a matter of fact, maybe you’re in one of them right now.  Two naive and innocent “friends” think, believe, and hope that their gender difference will not play a part in their interaction.  Yet, as a result of unguarded feelings and [...]

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Why Too Much Idealism is Bad

October 6, 2009

I know a ton of people who are wayyy too idealistic in what they look for, relationship wise. Is that such a bad thing? For the purposes of dating, yes, it is a bad thing! Why? Because then you end up 30+ and still single.  And, when you’re too idealistic, it becomes WAYYYY too unrealistic. [...]

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Multi Basket Methodology

October 6, 2009

Multi Basket Methodology is, in simplified form, basically “keeping your options open”.  The way that this dating methodology works is that you are discouraged from “putting all your eggs in one” basket until there is an ACTUAL reason for you to do this.  Honestly, the putting all your eggs in one basket methodology is a [...]

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Why You Shouldn’t Kiss Dating Goodbye

October 5, 2009

There are some people who often make SUCH A BIG DEAL about dating as if it were somehow automatically correlated to marriage.  However, the reality of the matter is, DATING does NOT mean that you are signing up to marry the person you are dating.  HONESTLY.  SCREW JOSHUA HARRIS (some guy who wrote a book [...]

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Why Desperation Is a Bad Thing

October 4, 2009

A quiet yearning awakens within the soul, destructively powerful, a dichotomy of so many contradicting realities that it’s hard to fathom that the source of these happenings come from only one source. Beautiful, yet at the same time ugly. Joy-giving, yet at the same time sorrowful. It’s an ebb and flow of two separate experiences [...]

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